Are you someone who has recently broken up from a long relationship and is unsure of how to go about finding love again? Going out on and starting dating is tough. You need to go out of your comfort zone and be forced to expose yourself in a way that may feel awkward. What will the person you meet think of your personality, and what do you do if the relationship does not meet expectations? These are questions that might be going through your mind but know that it’s completely normal.
Going through a breakup is probably one of the most difficult things you as a human being can ever go through. So it’s no wonder you might feel nervous about entering a (completely new) world of dating. Below we share five tips for those who are ready to find love again after going through a bad breakup.
Going through a breakup is a serious and emotionally draining experience that can make it difficult for anyone to move on.
Our advice for those who want to find love again after a breakup is to let go of the past. However, we don’t mean that you should just forget everything that happened or try to erase the experience from your memory. Instead, understand what happened and accept that it was a part of your life. Only after you’ve done this will you be able to be present, be open to meeting someone, and become ready to look at dating as an exciting experience.
Sometimes, you must rip the band-aid and dare to try something new. Signing up on a few different dating sites can be an excellent idea. There are many dating sites you can choose from, both paid and free variants, and a site like Double List can be an excellent safe choice for you to find your perfect match.
These types of dating sites offer people the chance to meet exciting and like-minded singles who you can be truly compatible with. After you sign up, prioritize spending some time thinking about how you want to present yourself and finish by asking a friend to review your text and photos to make sure the profile gives a fair picture of you. Remember to ask an honest friend for advice as you certainly want to receive a sincere opinion and know how to best present your qualities.
Tell people in your circle of acquaintances and your colleagues at work that you are interested in finding love again. This is because there may be an unexplored gold mine. Most people love to play “matchmaker” and just think it’s fun to help a single friend to meet someone nice.
Dare to go out and have a coffee with the colleague’s sibling or their best childhood friend. If you’re in the same social circle, there’s a good chance that you have similar interests and fit well together. Besides, it’s always nice with a personal recommendation, right?
It’s easy to just move in the same circles – and then it is of course difficult to meet someone who you would want to start dating. Try to find a hobby that offers new environments and people.
It could be anything from boxing, improvisational theater, a dancing class, acrylic painting, CrossFit training, swimming, or taking a language course. It doesn’t matter what it is, the important thing is that you change up your routines and do something unexpected. If you don’t meet the love of your life, you’ll surely meet new friends at the same time as you get the opportunity to learn something new.
Last but not least, try to relax and see dating as something fun. What’s the worst that can happen? Even if it doesn’t work out and you don’t find “the love of your life”, you can still have a nice dinner together, and if nothing else, possibly a fun story to tell your friends the next time you see each other. When this time in your life is over, you will regret not enjoying it more.
Although it may feel overwhelming to start dating again, it is good to at least start getting used to the idea of meeting someone new and eventually also start going on dates. See it as an exercise and be open until you completely feel emotionally ready to meet someone new. Dating is a good distraction and can help you get over a bad breakup. Just remember to take it at your own pace – you gain nothing by pushing yourself too much.